You spent months researching the best long-term care facility for your loved one. From in-person visits to online investigation, you dedicated so much of your life to finding the right place. Once you finally found a great home, you were able to breathe a sigh of relief. You trust them to care for your loved one, and everything you’ve seen and read indicates they are more than capable of doing so.
Now that he or she is settled, you both look forward to your visits. It’s a time to catch up, check in and connect. While you are there, it’s also a good idea to check up on the facility and the overall care your loved one is receiving. While things may look good on the surface, looking slightly below may offer a glimpse into what happens when you are not there.
How’s her personality?
Of course, with any transition, there will be a period of adjustment. After that initial adaptation, how does she seem? Is she her regular self? If you notice anything that seems to be off – quieter than usual, more emotional than normal – these could be signs that something more serious is going on. Oftentimes, these are the first symptoms of mistreatment.
How’s his level of activity?
He previously enjoyed walking around the facility’s hallways or grounds. Now when you visit, he doesn’t get out of bed. Perhaps it’s suddenly more difficult to coerce him out of his room. When you do, you notice he has much more difficult walking. Outside of a physical injury, this could also be evidence of neglect. This lack of activity could lead to serious bedsores or loss of muscle mass.
How do they look?
If it’s the same face smiling back at you, that’s a wonderful feeling. But if her face is looking gaunt, or his lips are dry and cracking, these could be indications that malnutrition or dehydration may be affecting your loved one.
If you ever suspect that your loved one is being mistreated, it’s important to remember that it is not your fault. You did everything you could to find the best possible environment for him or her. Working with an attorney can help protect your loved one from further neglect or abuse by holding the facility accountable for their actions.
In most cases, your visits will be just that – a time to visit. Everything will be fine. But it’s always important to be perceptive to any changes so that your loved one can have the life he or she deserves.